In This Chapter
- Watching for signs of sickness or injury
- Dealing with emergencies and transportation
- Popping your Chi’s pills
- Understanding ailments specific to Chihuahuas
- Maintaining your old dog’s comfort
- Facing the facts of life and death
I do hope you have to use one
section of this chapter, however. It’s about taking care of a golden oldster.
All pet owners hate seeing the signs of aging in themselves or their pets. Yet,
as the cliché goes, getting old is a whole lot better than the alternative. So
don’Tip let a little gray on your dog’s muzzle depress you. Your sassy senior can
enjoy a high quality of life for many years, and this chapter helps you keep
him in super shape.
Finally, I discuss the most
painful fact of life: death. Losing a precious pet is heartbreaking enough
without having to make sudden decisions, so I discuss options such as
euthanasia and different methods of caring for the body. I also include some
info on the stages of grief and healing.
Recognizing the Signs of Sickness
Remember
Many signs of sickness in Chihuahuas, although subtle at first, are symptoms that you may sense rather than actually see — the way a mother instinctively knows when something is troubling her spouse or child. So, if something seems wrong but you can’t figure out what it is, don’t chalk it up to an overactive imagination. The difference is probably an early warning, which is the best kind of warning; quick treatment, before your Chihuahua weakens, has the greatest chance of success.
If something doesn’t seem right,
even if that something doesn’t appear in this chapter, trust your
intuition and take your Chi to the vet for a checkup. The following sections
present a tiered approach to recognizing signs and taking action.
Wait and see (but not very long)
Some problems go away on their
own, but your Chi needs medical attention if any issue continues longer than 24
hours. If your Chihuahua has any of the following symptoms, watch him carefully:
- Refusing to eat anything at all but having no other signs of sickness
- Limping, or refusing to put weight on one of his legs, yet eating normally and showing no obvious signs of a fracture or other pain or sickness
- Changing personality or activity level but exhibiting no other signs of pain or sickness
- Mild diarrhea
The stool is loose but not liquid and doesn’t have any blood in it. No signs of straining or stomach pain.
- Vomiting two or three times but showing no other signs of sickness (plenty of perfectly healthy dogs vomit after eating grass)
A little less hop in his step? Call the vet
Years ago, when I showed American Staffordshire
Terriers, I had a female named Frankie who bounded over obedience jumps with
several inches to spare. One day, at a Chicago show, she seemed a little less
spirited than usual during breed judging, but she still started the morning
on a high note by winning Best of Breed. Later on, she also earned a
qualifying score in open obedience competition; however, I noticed that she
just cleared the jumps with no room to spare. I wanted to attribute her
sedate attitude to a muggy Midwest afternoon, but it nagged at me on the long
drive home.
The next morning, I called the vet for an
appointment, telling him only that something about Frankie didn’t seem quite
right. It turned out that she had a uterine infection. Because I caught it early,
it was easily cured, but if I had waited for more evidence of illness, her
problem may have become serious. What’s the moral of the story? No one knows
your dog better than you do.
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- Scratching or nipping an itchy spot or two but not hard enough to break the skin
- Drinking and urinating more than usual but showing no other signs of sickness
Tip
The average dog’s temperature is between 100.0°F and 102.5°F. He has a pulse rate between 80 and 120 beats per minute and takes 20 breaths per minute.
To take your Chi’s temperature,
use a rectal thermometer with a rounded end. Shake it down below 100 degrees
Fahrenheit, smear it with petroleum jelly, and insert it carefully between 1 ƒ
1/2 inches. Talk soothingly while holding him firmly, in a standing position,
for two minutes (don’t let him sit). Remove the thermometer and check the
reading. Disinfect the thermometer before putting it away.
Call your vet now
If your little Pepe has any of
the following problems, call your vet immediately and explain the symptoms in
detail. You’ll probably need a same-day appointment:
- Refusing to eat and seeming depressed or lethargic. He may also be suffering from stomach pain.
- Suffering an eye problem. This includes excessive tearing; an eye swollen shut or partially shut; or an eye that looks cloudy or off-color.
- Breathing that’s labored or fast and shallow. May or may not be in combination with a cough.
- Vomiting frequently, combined with depression or exhaustion.
- Incessant diarrhea. A liquid stool, combined with a terrible odor and possibly pain and straining.
- Swallowing of an object without choking. A swallowed object can turn into a life-threatening problem if your Chi can’t pass it. The sooner your vet assesses the situation, the better.
- Swelling on any part of his body. It may feel hard and hot to the touch or be infected and oozing.
- Scratching and/or biting at the skin until it’s inflamed, with possible hair loss brought on by intense itching.
- Injuring himself, like a deep puncture that can become infected, a cut that needs to be stitched, or severe lameness with no indication of a fracture.
Emergency!
A real emergency is a situation so scary that your Chihuahua
needs the attention of your vet or veterinary hospital immediately — no matter
if it’s Sunday, New Year’s Eve, or three o’clock in the morning. The following
lists outline the many emergency situations you may encounter; for more on
handling these issues, see the following section.
Emergencies resulting from accidents include
- Broken bones
- Heavy bleeding
- Severe trauma (possibility of internal bleeding and/or shock)
- Burns from fire, scalding, or chemicals
- Poisoning
Emergency illnesses include
- Seizures
- Staggering and/or falling down
- Uncontrollable diarrhea (sometimes bloody)
- Frequent vomiting
- Breathing problems
- Allergic reactions
- Obstruction in the throat (choking)
- Obstruction in the intestine or urinary tract (straining to eliminate)
- Paralysis
- Heatstroke
- Bloat (extremely rare in Chihuahuas)
Handling Serious Issues: First Aid and Transportation
Emergency situations demand the
service of a veterinarian ASAP. In the meantime, handling your Chihuahua
properly until he’s in the hands of a pro is important. Keeping calm is the
hardest part. If a wave of panic doesn’t rush over you when you first see your
sick or injured pet, you’re stronger than I am. But panic won’t help him, so
take a deep breath and resolve to stay calm and think straight. Then get to
work.
If your Chi has an emergency,
call your veterinary clinic (or its emergency number) immediately and tell the
receptionist (or whoever answers the phone) what happened. That way, the clinic
can prepare for his arrival. Then give him first aid and transport him to the
clinic. The following sections address this process with various emergency
situations.
Remember
Unless the clinic gives you other instructions for transporting your Chihuahua, put him in his crate with a lot of clean, soft bedding, secure the crate in your vehicle so it won’t slide or roll, and drive to the clinic. Note: Be careful when handling a dog that’s in pain or panicking. He will bite.
Tip
If you suspect that your Chi has been poisoned by ingesting or inhaling poison, absorbing a toxic substance through the skin, or by injection (snake, scorpion, or spider bite), get professional help immediately. If you’re far from a vet, call the National Animal Poison Control Center hotline at 900-680-0000. The fee is charged over the phone.
Heavy bleeding
Use a pressure bandage (not a
tourniquet) to control heavy bleeding or blood spurting from any part of your
dog’s body. It’s best if you have a helper so one person can keep the pressure
bandage on your Chi while the other drives to the clinic.
If you have two people, follow
these steps:
1. With clean hands, apply
direct pressure to the wound by holding a gauze pad firmly against it for 30
seconds.
2. If bleeding continues,
apply a second gauze pad on top of the first and continue applying pressure.
3. Wrap your Chi in a clean
towel, and with one person carrying him and holding the gauze pad(s) in place,
go to the veterinary clinic.
If you don’t have a helper,
follow these steps:
1. Wrap a wide adhesive
bandage around the wound and the gauze pad.
2. Put your Chi in his crate
with a towel or blanket around him.
3. Secure the crate in your
vehicle so it won’t slide or roll and head for the clinic.
If the clinic is many miles away
and the adhesive bandage is around one of his legs, stop and check the foot
below the bandage after half an hour. If it’s swollen or cold, loosen the bandage
but leave the gauze pad in place.
Warning!
Resist the urge to clean or wipe a wound while it’s still bleeding. Stopping the bleeding is your first priority, and cleaning the wound often makes it bleed even harder.
Choking
If your Chihuahua paws at his
mouth, drools, seems unable to close his mouth, coughs, tries to vomit, strains
for breath by stretching his head and neck, or appears frantic, he may be
choking.
1. Wedge something (the handle
of a small screwdriver works well) between the top and bottom molars on one side
of his mouth to keep it open.
2. Use a flashlight or put him
under good lighting and look into his mouth and down his throat.
3. Pull his tongue straight
(careful, he may try to bite) to see if the offending object is on top of it.
4. If you find the problem,
remove it with your fingers or a pair of long-nosed pliers.
5. If all else fails (you can
see the wedged object but your Chi can’t catch his breath), hold him upside
down by his hind legs and shake him (or pat him on the back if you have a
helper to hold him).
With luck, that will dislodge the
object so he can breathe again. Visit the vet anyway. Your Chi just suffered a
major trauma. (If you can’t see the object, follow the instruction in the next
section.)
Can’t catch breath
If your Chihuahua is gasping for
air, his tongue is turning blue, his breathing is loud and labored, or he’s not
breathing at all, you don’t have a second to spare. If he’s getting enough air
to sustain himself, transport him to the vet immediately in his crate. But if
he isn’t breathing, start mouth-to-nose resuscitation right away. Here’s how:
1. First try the methods
recommended in the preceding “Choking” section.
2. If he still isn’t
breathing, lay him on his right side on a table. Close his mouth and tilt his
head back.
3. Keeping his mouth closed,
place your open mouth over his nose (you can do it through a handkerchief if
you prefer) and breathe five or six shallow (short) breaths into it.
Of course you’re terrified, but
try to control your breathing. Your dog is small, so he doesn’t have much lung
capacity. If he starts breathing, you’ve saved his life. Now take him to the
vet for observation.
4. If he still isn’t
breathing, keep giving him mouth-to-nose resuscitation. Try to give him
approximately 20 shallow breaths per minute.
Keep trying for a full ten
minutes. When he starts breathing by himself, go to the clinic. If breathing
doesn’t resume by then, he’s probably dead, but at least you know you did everything
possible to help him.
Broken leg
When treating and transporting a
dog with a broken leg (or any broken bone), your job is to get him to the
clinic without making the injury any worse on the way. Steady the limb (without
pulling on it) by wrapping absorbent cotton around the entire leg. Then use
gauze bandage, held in place with adhesive, to keep the leg from moving during
transport.
Heatstroke
Symptoms of heatstroke include
rapid or heavy breathing, a bright red mouth and tongue, thick saliva,
unsteadiness (possibly falling over), diarrhea, vomiting, a hot and dry nose
with legs and ears hot to the touch, and complete collapse — often combined
with glassy eyes and gray lips.
Remember
Dogs don’t sweat. The only way they can regulate their body temperature is by panting.
To save your Chihuahua during a
case of heatstroke, you must start cooling him immediately — even before you
call the clinic:
1. Take him to a shady or
air-conditioned place.
2. Soak a towel in cool (not
ice) water, wring it out, and apply cold compresses to his belly and groin.
3. Lay the cool towel on his
back and gently wet his head with it.
4. Let him drink a small
amount of cool water at intervals — not all he wants at one time.
If he’s too weak to drink, wipe
the inside of his mouth with the water.
5. Call the clinic, put the
cold, wet towel in the bottom of his crate, and take him to the vet.
Warning!
Although most emergencies are the result of bad luck rather than bad management, heatstroke is absolutely preventable. Don’t overexert your Chi on a muggy day or leave him alone inside your vehicle. The temperature inside a car or truck, even one parked in the shade, usually is 25 degrees hotter than outside the vehicle. Every year, hundreds of pets die from being left alone in parked vehicles for just a few minutes.
Reviewing Veterinary Issues Specific to Chihuahuas
Although Chihuahuas have fewer
genetic defects than many breeds (maybe because so many breeders try hard to
eliminate problems), no breed is perfect. In the following sections, I present
some idiosyncrasies — a few serious issues but most not — that are sometimes
seen in Chihuahuas and other Toy breeds.
Subluxation of the patella
Subluxation of the patella, or
luxating patella, is a relatively common problem in small breeds and
some large ones as well. In dog lingo, this defect is called “slipped stifles”
or “loose kneecaps.” When it occurs, the kneecap (we’re talking about the rear
legs) slips out of its groove — sometimes often and sometimes rarely, depending
on the severity of the problem. If your dog is unlucky enough to have his
kneecaps slip often, surgery may be the solution. A dog with a mild case can
live a normal life, kind of like a person with a trick knee.
Hypoglycemia
Hypoglycemia refers to low
blood sugar and is a common problem in young Toy puppies. Most of them grow out
of it before they’re old enough to leave the breeders, but for a few, it’s a
danger throughout their lives.
Symptoms of low blood sugar
include a staggering gait, glassy eyes, and sometimes limpness or rigidity. If
the dog doesn’t receive immediate help when the symptoms show, he can suffer
seizures, unconsciousness, and, finally, death. Treatment involves putting some
sugar in your dog’s mouth, calling your veterinarian, and heading for the
clinic.
Tip
When you know that your dog has a tendency to develop hypoglycemia, you can prevent future attacks by changing his feeding schedule. Give small amounts of food several times a day and avoid sugary treats (check the ingredients before buying dog treats). Too much sugar in his food can put your Chi on a rollercoaster ride of sugar highs and lows instead of keeping his blood sugar nice and level. (For more on diet, head to Chapter What’s on the Chi Menu?.)
Collapsing trachea
Collapsing trachea is a
problem for Toy dogs of many breeds — mostly in dogs older than 5 years, but
occasionally a puppy has it from birth. The symptoms include coughing,
shortness of breath, and exhaustion. To understand the condition, think of the
trachea as a straw made of cartilage that carries air from the neck to the chest.
When the cartilage collapses, breathing becomes difficult — kind of like
sipping soda through a flattened straw.
Warning!
Your vet can treat the condition with medication, but if you smoke, your Chi’s prognosis may be poor. Secondhand smoke is a proven contributing factor to the problem, and smoke tends to settle low, where a little dog’s nose is.
Heart murmur
Heart murmurs are
relatively uncommon in Chihuahuas. Thankfully, even those that have one usually
have the functional type. As in people, that means they can be as active and
athletic as they want and live long, normal lives. If your Chihuahua is unlucky
enough to develop a severe murmur, your vet will detect it during his annual exam.
Further tests, such as an ultrasound and an EKG, may be recommended, and your
vet will discuss treatment options with you.
Molera
The Chihuahua’s molera (or
fontanel) is considered a breed characteristic and not a condition or
defect. Most Chihuahuas (80 to 90 percent) have a molera — a soft spot on the
top of the head similar to a human baby’s soft spot. But unlike babies, most
Chihuahuas don’t outgrow it. It usually shrinks as the dog matures and ends up between
nickel- and dime-sized. Your Chi’s molera won’t be a problem as long as you’re
gentle when petting or handling his head.
Hydrocephalus
A dog with hydrocephalus (also
called “water on the brain”) may have an unusually large head for his size
caused by swelling. Other signs of this fatal condition are frequent falling,
seizures, a lot of white showing in the eyes, an unsteady gait, and east-west
eyes (the opposite of crossed eyes). A dog with this condition is in pain and
won’t live long, so euthanasia is the humane solution (euthanasia is the
medical term for a humane, vet-assisted death).
Going under anesthesia
The possibility that your dog may
someday need anesthesia is one main reason why you need to choose a
veterinarian who’s accomplished in treating Toy dogs (see Chapter Visiting the
Vet). Although
deaths from anesthesia are rare and are usually the result of an allergic reaction,
the use of a sedative is potentially dangerous. Your vet uses anesthesia only
when necessary (before surgery, for example).
Prevention is the best course of
action. Be sure to read about how to clean your Chihuahua’s teeth (see Chapter Grooming
the Body Beautiful) so that cleaning them under anesthesia won’t be necessary. And when your dog
has to go under anesthesia (during spaying or neutering, for example), ask
your vet if any necessary dental work (such as pulling impacted baby teeth) can
be done at the same time.
Remember
Be sure your vet uses one of the modern gas anesthetics. They’re much safer than the old-fashioned intravenous products. The most modern gas is Sevoflurane.
Watching those eyes
An eye injury certainly isn’t a
“condition,” but because Chihuahuas have big eyes and live close to the floor,
they’re prone to eye injuries. Put several drops of saline solution in your
dog’s eye if an injury seems minor. That’s often all it takes to flush out a
foreign object that was accidentally kicked up by someone’s shoe. If that doesn’t
relieve the problem or if the injury appears more serious, take your Chi to the
vet right away.
Keeping Your Senior Sassy
Oh no! Your Pepe is getting gray
hairs. Even though he’s healthy, rambunctious, and still in his prime, seeing
the first signs of aging is scary. But it doesn’t have to be. Keeping your
oldster healthy and happy isn’t hard at all. If you’re lucky enough to share
your life with a golden oldie, you can help him stay feisty by keeping his infirmities
in mind.
Tip
If you prefer homeopathic medicine for yourself, you may want to find out if it will help your Chihuahua. Excellent information is available at www.hpathy.com/veterinary/index.asp. Acupuncture also has been known to relieve many disorders — especially arthritis. You can read all about it at www.acupuncture.com/animals/dog.htm.
Aid for your aging dog
Dogs age much like humans do.
Even if your Chi has led a worryfree life, one of the first signs that he’s
becoming a senior is sprouting gray (white) hairs (see Figure 15-1). They
appear first on his face, encircling his eyes and giving his muzzle a grizzled
look. Don’t let them spook you. Chances are your Chihuahua will have gray hairs
for several years before feeling the first creaky joint of old age.
Figure 15-1: Manchita is
11 years old and has gray and thinning hair (compare this to her picture in
Chapter Sharing
Your Digs with a Dog: A Big Decision). But she still plays like a pup!
Other signs of aging include
dental problems, including the loss of teeth. Eventually, your Chi may no
longer be able to crunch his kibble (dry food). One solution is to soften it by
soaking it in warm water for several minutes and mixing it with canned meat. If
he develops kidney trouble (or other organic or allergic problems), your
veterinarian can prescribe an easily chewed food made especially to ease such
difficulties.
Tip
While recovering from an accident or illness or when suffering the dental problems that may come with old age, your Chihuahua may welcome baby food. You can find boxes of rice cereal and jars of strained meats in the baby-food section of the supermarket. A combination of rice cereal and strained meat (warmed slightly) may entice your dog to eat when nothing else works.
Remember
Older dogs often are less tolerant of cold than even puppies are, so be sure that
- Your senior Chi has a warm sweater for outings.
- You keep him away from drafts.
- You put an extra baby blanket in his bed.
And speaking of his bed, he may
start spending more time in it, preferring an afternoon nap to a brisk walk.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “use it or lose it,” and that advice applies
to dogs as well as people. An older Chi still needs his exercise, although you shouldn’t
expect him to take part in strenuous activities. Make your walks together
leisurely rather than lively, and when playing indoor exercise games (see
Chapters Establishing
Good Behavior and Manners and Training
Your Chi for Canine Events, Tricks, and for Show), don’t be surprised if he shuffles rather than speeds
through the house!
No matter what speed your Chi
chooses, playing helps him stay mentally sharp and keeps his muscles oiled,
too. Not only that, but exercise helps him avoid obesity — a serious health
problem in older dogs.
Aching joints and other signs of aging
Arthritis often attacks older
dogs, and although nothing cures it, your veterinarian may be able to provide
relief. Some ancient Chihuahuas may not have severe enough cases to require
medicine, but they may need a little more help at home. If your Chi can’t jump on
and off the sofa anymore, lift him up and down. Same with
If your Chi were an older human,
he would need bifocals and a hearing aid. The problem is, this equipment isn’t
made for dogs. So if your Chi always came when you called him but he suddenly starts
to ignore you, chances are he has a hearing (not a behavior) problem. And if he
was on the same elimination schedule for a dozen years and then starts waking
you up at 4 a.m. to take him outside, he’s not just looking for attention.
Your Chi may become a crotchety
old codger, too, detesting even minor changes and become unwilling to make new
friends (perhaps because of failing senses or twinges of arthritis). Report sudden
changes in routine and disposition to your vet. Many problems can be relieved.
Others can’t, and some of them probably bother you more than they bother your
Chi. After all, dogs don’t agonize over the signs of aging like people do. As
long as your Pepe still enjoys life and isn’t suffering severe pain, he’ll be
happy as long as you love him.
Technical Stuff
The branch of medicine called geriatrics treats problems peculiar to aging; gerontology is the study of aging in people or their pets.
Coping with the Death of a Pet
Owners often know in advance when
death is threatening their pets, but sometimes dogs die without warning,
leaving owners saddened and shocked. Complicating the process are the decisions
you may have to make concerning euthanasia and a final resting place. Understanding
your options in advance may make things a little easier. I hope this section
will help you with your planning and grief.
Is euthanasia ever the best ending?
Euthanasia is the most
humane ending if your Chihuahua is in severe and constant pain with no hope of
recovery. It consists of a lethal dose of a strong anesthetic, humanely
administered by your vet. The injection puts your dog to sleep instantly and
stops his heart. Only you can decide when the time is right, but it won’t be as
hard as you think. Trust your instincts and what your dog is showing you. These
factors tell you when ending your dog’s misery is the most merciful thing you
can do for him.
After you make that painful
decision and make your final trip to the vet, the receptionist will ask if you
want to leave your dog or stay with him during the procedure. Staying may be
harder on you in the short run, but it’s best for most people in the long run.
Take care of all the paperwork first so you won’t have to handle it through
your tears. Then hold your Chi in your loving arms while the vet administers
the injection. That way you’ll know for sure that your dog didn’t suffer, and
he’ll die peacefully, nestled against your chest.
Do you ever get over it? Well,
no. You’ll probably always miss your Pepe. But someday you’ll be able to talk
about his antics without a tear in your eye or a catch in your throat. Instead,
you’ll smile as you relate some of your favorite Pepe stories. And you’ll know
that the good times you had together will never be gone. They’ll always remain
in your mental bank of happy memories.
Handling your dog’s body
Many people choose to leave their
departed pets’ bodies at the veterinary clinic. Usually the clinic notifies a
service, which picks up the body and cremates it. Several dogs usually are
cremated at the same time, and the cremains (ashes) are buried in the
earth. Don’t be shy about asking your vet how he or she will dispose of the
body. Some clinics have their own facilities for cremation, and others have
different procedures.
Let him die while he’s living
One of the saddest sights I ever saw was an
ancient Chihuahua named Sadie lying on her side in a puddle of urine, with
her hind legs and tail soiled by feces. Sadie’s owner loved her too much to
have her put down. When the owner had to spend a couple days in the hospital,
she asked my friend to care for Sadie, warning her that the poor puppy (Sadie
was 16) couldn’t stand up anymore and would have to be cleaned up and force
fed. My friend asked me to come along on her first visit, and although we
expected it to be bad, it was worse than we expected. We bathed and dried
Sadie, cuddled her, pushed prescription pills down her throat, got some strained
chicken down her throat the same way, gave her water from an eyedropper, and
covered her with clean blankets. Through it all, Sadie’s expression remained
blank. Her spirit was gone, leaving her miserable shell of a body behind. Please
don’t love your dog so possessively that it makes you selfish. To paraphrase a
Jimmy Buffet song, let him die while he’s living, not live when he’s dead.
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Private cremation is another
option. The ceremony may be handled at a pet cemetery, a private pet
crematorium, or your veterinary clinic. You can keep your pet’s ashes in an
urn, bury them, or scatter them in a place your pet loved.
Some people prefer to bury their
dogs in their own yards. You can mark the spot with a beautiful perennial
plant. This is an excellent option, provided that it’s legal in your area. If
not, pet cemeteries offer burials, which can be as simple or as elegant as you
choose (and can afford). Because not all pet cemeteries are created equal, look
for one that’s neat, clean, and has been around for a long time.
Helping Yourself and Your Family Heal
Shock, disbelief, anger,
alienation, denial, guilt, and depression are all stages of grief. Most people
go through every one of them, although not always in that order. To help
yourself through these painful stages, you need to
- Understand that mourning the loss of a beloved pet is natural. Your Chi wasn’t “just a dog.” He was your dog. You had a strong bond with him, and broken bonds cause broken hearts.
- Take time to mourn. Don’t tell yourself to “get over it” and then bury your grief so deep that it eats you up from the inside. No guidelines exist for working through the stages of grief. Some people need more time to mourn than others.
- Make a few changes in your habits and decor. Put your Chi’s bed, bowls, crate, and toys out of sight. Take his treats out of the cookie jar and his leash off the hat rack. Because walking him was probably one of the first things you did each morning, create a new morning routine.
- Talk about your feelings. Find an understanding ear — someone who also adored your Chi or who loves his or her own dog deeply — and discuss your feelings of loss. Many cities have support groups that help people through the pain of losing a pet. Ask your vet for a recommendation.
In the days that follow your
Chi’s death, don’t be afraid to say that you miss him in front of your family.
Encourage your kids to talk about their feelings, too. Look at pictures of him together
and recount his hilarious escapades. Tell the kids (more than once) that he
will always be part of them, because the good memories they have of him are
theirs forever.
Tip
Sometimes sadness may sweep over you at work, and your co-workers may notice. If they ask you what’s wrong and you don’t want to talk about it, or you aren’t sure how they feel about pets, just tell them that you recently lost a good friend. After all, it’s the absolute truth.
- Read a book about pet loss.
- Give your other pets extra attention.
- Consider getting another dog. No, not a replacement. It’s impossible to replace your Chi because he was an individual and no other dog will be just like him. But you can love other dogs, as long as you don’t expect them to act like your Pepe. If you think you’ll have a problem with that, you can buy a different color Chihuahua or a different breed entirely. That will help you learn to love your new dog’s unique personality.
Also, be sure to tell your children that Pepe can’t be replaced, but that learning to love another dog is okay. In fact, some say the greatest honor you can give your dog is to love another of his kind.
Remember
If your Chihuahua’s death was preventable, forgive yourself but learn from the experience. Maybe you didn’t feel up to walking him one morning, so you turned him loose “just that one time” and he ran in front of a car. Or maybe you lost track of when his booster vaccination was due and he caught a deadly disease. If you contributed to his death, you’re probably beating yourself up with guilt. But that won’t bring him back. Instead, face what you did, learn from it, and go on. Give his death meaning by resolving never to make that mistake again. After all, no one is a perfect pet owner. Pet owners are just people who love their dogs but are occasionally prone to poor judgment.
Helping your spouse and your
children cope with the loss of a pet can be soothing to you at the same time.
One of the ways families come to terms with the finality of their situations
(and then go on) is by combining their efforts and creating memorial ceremonies
for their dead dogs. You can hold a ceremony regardless of whether you have
remains to scatter or a body to bury, and you can perform the ceremony indoors
if you don’t have a yard.
Explain the ceremony to your
family as a celebration of your Chihuahua’s life and all the joy he brought to
your family. Ask each family member to think of why they loved your dog or
something funny that he did so they can tell it during the ceremony. (Youngsters
who have a problem expressing themselves may want
Warning!
Never use a pet’s death to make a point to your children. Even if you had to nag little Julie when it was her turn to walk your Chi, resist forever any urge to say something like, “If you hadn’t made him wait so long to go potty, he may not have had kidney failure.” Grieving kids need compassion, not guilt.by Jacqueline O’Neil
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